Growing up I remember thinking that talk radio was for old people. It’s so boring. Why listen to someone talk when you can rock out to Dreamlover? By the way, that song came out 20 years ago. Mind = blown.
I’m eating my words now, though, because I love listening to talk. I listen to Wake Up with Taylor on Sirius XM, so I’m not sure if that classifies as “grown up” talk radio, but I also listen to Dave. I’m a big fan of Dave. Dave? Dave Ramsey, of course.
He’s a financial guru, but I also tend to see eye to eye with him on other issues as well, like politics and parenting.
The other day I was listening to his show and while he was discussing how to raise kids to be smart with money, he uttered the phrase- more is caught than taught.
I haven’t been able to get it out of my head since then. I totally believe in that statement.
Sure my parents discussed right and wrong with me, but I’m a decent person because they led by example. They are good people and do the right thing. I caught that. I caught a whole lot more from watching them live, too… mostly good
Hearing the phrase served as a reminder of the kind of parent I want to be. I don’t want to lecture, I want to lead by example .
I’ve been thinking of my hopes for who Hailey will be and the words that come to mind are strong, confident, healthy, happy, grateful, kind, smart, giving, loving and self-reliant… in no particular order. These are ideals I strive for in my own life, but obviously I’m human and fall short. This mantra has me really focusing, though, on living my ideals in hopes that Hailey will “catch” them.
When I’m nervous to meet someone or do something new, I take a deep breath and try to go into it with the confidence I’d want Hailey to have. When I find myself tempted to pinch my thighs and say “SHRINK already!!”, I catch Hailey out of the corner of my eye and instead smile at myself in the mirror and say “look how strong momma is!”.
It’s starting to make a real difference in the way I view, treat and handle myself. I’m slowly becoming the person I want my daughter to be.
More is caught than taught. Think about it. Think about the way you treat yourself and the way you live. Would you be proud if a child grew up to be exactly like you? If not, what would you want to change for them? What’s stopping you from making that change for yourself?
…deep thoughts on this Tuesday. Thanks for letting me ramble.