This post is a bit late this morning because for some reason Hailey decided she wanted to say hello to me at 4:30am…and 5:00am. So once I got her back down, we both snoozed until 7:45am. It’s all gravy, though, it provided some inspiration for this morning’s post.
When I was pregnant I loved imagining what life with a baby would be like. Sure, I’d be tired those first few weeks, but after those sleepless nights, I knew I’d just relax on the couch with the baby and we’d both catch up on our zzz’s together. Ah, beautiful, ignorant bliss.
I quickly saw in the mirror what sleep deprivation will do to a person (it isn’t pretty), and I learned that I don’t do well without my solid 7-8 hours. Luckily I was blessed with a pretty great sleeper (knock on wood!).
Over the past 4.5 months, I’ve learned a few other things, too. Allow me to share…
I learned to trust myself.
You’re pregnant, you glow, you push and the doctor hands you a baby (or something like that ) and then 2 days later you leave the hospital to raise that child on your own…. except every move you make is now on one side of an argument or the other. Example: “They” say if your baby sleeps more than 2 hours, you must wake her up to feed her. Personally, I never woke Hailey up to feed her and high-fived myself when she slept for 4 hour stretches. I felt comfortable with that because she was gaining weight, creating plenty of wet and dirty diaper and was very happy overall. However, I still fretted about whether my decision was the ‘right’ decision more than once, then realized that it was the right decision for me and my baby. And that’s all that mattered.
I learned to be more flexible.
I thrived on organization, a schedule, a plan for the day… then I had a baby. Don’t get me wrong, I still love those things, but I’ve had to learn how to not breakdown when Hailey gets a dirty diaper as we’re walking out the door or if she isn’t tired when the schedule says she ought to be. I’m learning more everyday about how to go with the flow and I’m so glad because whether I stress about it or not, things aren’t always going to go according to plan. So I might as well laugh instead of cry.
I learned that time flies by.
I love watching Hailey grow. It seems like everyday she learns something new, giggles a bit more and her hair grows a little longer. When I reached about age 24, I felt like time kind of stopped, that I wasn’t really getting any older; I was just chillin’ in my 20s. Then Hailey came and days started flying by. So did months. 4 and 1/2 months have flown by, to be exact. So even on the crazy days, the tired days, the grumpy days, in between my frustrations I remind myself how blessed I am to be here… sometimes I smile at the thought… and other times I mock my cheerfulness as I wash baby poop off my hands.
I learned that sometimes you just have to say screw it.
Guess what… we still rock our baby to sleep at night. That may not sound like a big deal to some of you, but many people believe that this is damaging because the child will never be able to put herself to sleep without assistance. It may sound silly, but these types of ‘facts’ haunted me for a while and scared me into thinking I was doing something wrong. I tried to justify it by saying that we don’t rock her at nap times, then realized, who am I trying to prove anything to? Guess what, my baby is growing up so quickly and it won’t be long before she won’t fit in my arms anymore. And watching her get sleepy and drift off into dreamland in my arms is incredible. Even more special is that usually Hubbs rocks her to sleep. I love that he has this special time with her because he works hard and doesn’t get to be around her all day like I do, so I don’t want to take that away because some ‘expert’ told me it might mess with her. So, screw it!
What’s one thing you’ve learned lately that you’d pass on to others?