Who’s up for a little Friday fun? I am! Especially if it’s all about poking fun at all those blissfully ignorant things I said while I was still pregnant.
But first, two things.
First, 4th of July is NEXT week- whoop! I love that summer holiday and I also love some parfaits because, honestly, who doesn’t?
Yesterday on WCCB Charlotte Rising, I made these festive Greek yogurt parfaits with Tera. Click the link to watch me in action… and watch me say ‘gunna’ instead of ‘going to’ – way to articulate, Brittany!
Also, I recently wrote a post for What to Expect (When You’re Expecting) website regarding my frustration with today’s coddled kids. You can check that out HERE.
But now, the 5 things I should have never said I’d never do as a parent…
5. I swore we wouldn’t use a pacifier. After all, pacifiers are a bad habit and can mess up children’s teeth. It’s a crutch. It’s a cop out. It’s… a life saver. David popped one in Hailey’s mouth when she was 3 weeks old and when I saw it, I swear smoke billowed out of my ears as I ripped it out of her mouth. The next day I couldn’t soothe her no matter what I tried, so I popped that pacifier in, swallowed my pride and haven’t looked back. Now we use the pacifier for only sleep and in the car (unless we mess up her schedule and use one as a life raft). I hope to break the overall habit around age 2. Pray for me.
4. I would never bribe my child with a treat to behave. I stood all proud of this fact while Hailey was a complacent baby, but once toddlerhood hit, I caved. It was at Target (maybe around 14 months?). It was a sucker (does it help that it was organic?!). It bought me an extra 20 minutes. No regrets. Now I always grab a toy, stickers or a snack to keep her occupied.
3. I’d never be that mom that counted age in weeks or months. Well, then I became pregnant and realized that weeks made so much more sense than months. Then Hailey was an infant and months just seemed natural to count in, but no way would I do it after she turned 1. Well, guess what. Someone asked how old she was yesterday and I replied 21 months. Maybe I’ll stop once she is 2?
2. I would always have all my attention on my child and never have my nose in a phone. Then I became a stay-at-home(ish) mom and I get it. Sure, maybe you see me ONCE at the park and I’m responding to an email while Hailey goes down the slide for the 1 billionth time and shake your head at me being such a disengaged mother. But guess what you didn’t see? The THREE hours I spent earlier reading books (over and over I might add), changing diapers, singing songs and teaching her to help me cook. I feel comfortable with the amount of time I spend engaging with my daughter and believe that self play and play time without mom is beneficial, too.
1. No TV before age 2. Oh boy, was I set on this one. Really set. I’ve read so much about how children don’t need to be constantly entertained. It’s bad for their brain development. It slows their ability to acquire the necessary skills to entertain themselves and develop a strong imagination. I was sold and so I stuck to it. Then, one day at 20 months old, I’d had the longest day ever. I snapped and found Dora the Explorer on Netflix. I begged that little girl, her monkey friend and her singing map to PLEASE entertain my child for just 15 minutes. She did. And I love her for that. So now we are Dora and Sesame Street fans, but I still really try to limit it. I’d say Hailey watches 60 minutes total a week, broken into 15 minute segments. My pre-child self is shaking her head in disappointment, but my toddler-mom self is looking at me with sympathetic eyes.
I can’t be alone in these…. right?
What is one thing you said you’d NEVER do that you’ve caved on?