If we were all sitting down in the same room right now I’d have tears streaming down my face. Not from the sadness that still aches in my heart, but from the incredible outpouring of support you’ve given me through this difficult time.
With so much cruelty reported in the world and the overwhelming negativity that sometimes seems to proliferate in our newsfeeds, I had a day yesterday where I felt something so much more powerful than those things could ever be- pure love and compassion.
We all go through heartbreak. The raw pain, the messy emotions and sorrow are part of life and bind us together. These events are different to each of us, but what warmed my heart in a way that I can’t accurately describe is the empathy and permission to grieve I was given.
I read every single word you each sent my way. Then during the girls’ naps I sat curled up in bed, tears streaming down my face, as I read them all again.
Thank you Kristy, for sharing this quote.
With each comment, email, hug, text and phone call, I felt a little piece of my pain release. It’s like I was given the OK to hurt, to cry and to start to heal. I can’t tell you how grateful I am for that. Thank you.
I read how many of you went through the same thing or will be doing so soon and I cried with you.
Lesley shared a quote from this story, and I really embraced it, so maybe it will help you too.
Yesterday I tried to focus in on just the silver lining of it all.
I reflected on how wonderful it is that I have my dear friend, Alison, that I could call last minute when we got the news who didn’t hesitate to take the girls, feed them and bathe them so I didn’t have to think of a thing besides saying goodbye.
I also learned how to be better in helping others experiencing grief, so for that I am grateful. I’m so guilty of not knowing the right thing to say to a person grieving, but now I recognize now how powerful even a simple acknowledgment and condolences are in the healing process. It doesn’t have to be the perfect thing to say. I understand it hurts more not to talk about it.
And I smile every time I look at the flowers my friend Cheryl brought me. There are a reason people send flowers; they bring a little light and beauty into the house.
I know people are facing and have gone through worse. I know some people do not understand the depth of love you can have for a pet. But what amazes me is the genuine compassion people can have for each other without comparing tragedies. We all hurt at some point, in different ways, and the best thing we can do is to love each other through it.
So thank you, friends and family, for loving me through this and being a silver lining during this sad time in my life. I am getting back on my feet and thank you for your understanding while I take one more day to breathe and adjust to this new normal.
There is no death; only a change of worlds. —