Why I am Choosing Natural Childbirth

by Brittany on August 4, 2011 · 85 comments

I’ve thought quite a few times about whether or not to post on this subject, but after hearing from you that you’re interested on my what my plans are, I decided, what the heck.

I’m a little hesitant to discuss my plans for natural childbirth for three reasons:

1. I don’t want anyone to think I’m judging other methods of bringing a baby into the world.  Whether induction, an epidural, a c-section, a water birth or hypnobirthing helped you bring your child into the world, you’re still a mom that gave birth to your baby.  And you’re awesome for that.

2. I don’t want anyone to judge my decision. When I’ve been asked if I plan on getting an epidural and have said no, I’ve gotten looks of disgust.  I’ve also heard statements like ‘would you get a root canal without pain medication? Then why would you have a baby without it?’.  I don’t judge others for what they choose, and don’t wish to be judged myself.  I can use all the words of encouragement I can, thank you.

3. I know I can only plan things so much, because who knows what will actually happen on the day I go into labor.  If things go crazy and my birth plan has to be thrown out the window, all that matters to me is that my baby makes it safely into this world. But will people throw I told you so’s at me if things don’t go according to my plans? I hope not.

That being said, yes, I intend on having an un-medicated, natural childbirth in a hospital.  I chose this method for a few reasons:

  • I want to be as present as possible at the moment my child comes into this world.  I don’t want to feel loopy or sick.  I want to feel the rush of natural hormones that are released in the moment when I first see my baby.
  • I want to do everything possible I can do avoid a c-section.  I’ve done extensive research on the subject, and many times when modern medicine is brought in, one thing leads to another.  For example: inducing labor when your body isn’t ready generally produces erratic and strong contractions.  Things generally progress more slowly when labor is induced, which can lead to an increased dosage of pitocin (the drug used to induce labor).  The increased intensity of contractions often leads the mother to need pain management in the form of an epidural.  Epidurals can slow things down, creating the need for an emergency c-section.  Epidurals also can take away your ability to feel the natural progression on labor, such as the need to push, making labor longer.
  • I don’t want anything to effect the alertness of my baby.  I plan on breastfeeding and want my baby to have the opportunity to nurse immediately after entering the world, when their instinct in strong.
  • I’m a firm believer that our bodies were made to do this, and there is even a part of me that wants to experience all of labor.  It is certainly one of, if not THE most intense experiences I will ever go through in my life.  Maybe this reason makes me a little nutty!

I am also looking forward to experiencing some benefits of choosing natural childbirth.

  • I will be mobile.  They will put the saline lock on me, but I will not be hooked up to fluids unless absolutely necessary, which will allow me to move around as I please.  This will allow me to find the position I’m most comfortable in and help labor progress more quickly.
  • I will have access to food and water.  I’m not talking about a cheeseburger, but honey sticks, fruit juices and peanut butter will help give me the stamina I need.
  • I’ll be able to sit in the tub or shower. I hear it offers great relief from contractions, as long as my water hasn’t broken yet.

What I’m counting on to get me through:

  • First and foremost I can count on my extremely supportive and loving husband.  Hubbs is reading the same books I am and we are on the same page (pun not intended) when it comes to our birth plan.  He will be my voice when I’m too focused to speak, he’ll be there to support me physically (his poor hands may fall off from rubbing my back) and support me emotionally, telling me I can do it and that I’m doing a FABulous job ;)
  • Reading. I’ve read The Bradley Method and Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth, as well scoured the web to read and watch all the natural childbirth stories I can find.  I’ve heard horror stories and stories that people say the experience isn’t as bad as people make it out to be.  I feel like I’ve heard the full spectrum of what I could possibly expect.
  • Keeping the fact that this pain comes with a purpose: to bring our baby into the world.
  • Trusting my body knows what to do, and understanding why I’m feeling the sensations I’m feeling.

My biggest fears:

  • That my baby will be breach and I won’t even have the opportunity to attempt natural childbirth.
  • Being judged by the nursing staff. I know that sounds silly, but I want to be left alone with Hubbs as much as possible.
  • That my water will break before contractions start.  I really hope to go into labor and labor for as long as I can at home before heading to the hospital.  However, if my water breaks first, I’m told I need to head straight to the hospital because the baby has to be born within 24 hours or there is an increased risk of infection.

Whew- that was quite a lengthy post.

Have you done natural childbirth?

If so, please share your story or tips with me!

What are your thoughts on natural childbirth?

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Kath August 5, 2011 at 5:28 pm

Great post! I agree 100% with what your goals are – I hope to have the same when I’m pregnant someday

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Katie @ Pop Culture Cuisine August 5, 2011 at 7:45 pm

I was really glad to read what you wrote in this post, since I am hoping to deliver in a similar manner. I am due Sept. 15 and I must admit that as things get closer I do get more and more nervous about whether I am going to be able to handle the whole process, but I just keep reminding myself that women have done this for centuries, then so can I. That being said, I am planning to be open minded and if the Dr. does suggest things go a certain route, I will for sure follow what they say.

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Melissa @ Be Not Simply Good August 5, 2011 at 7:54 pm

I can understand your hesitation. Thanks for sharing. I agree with all your reasons to want to go natural. I wanted to, but it was not possible the first time due to placenta previa. I felt so let down, but came to realize that if my baby and I were both okay, that’s all that mattered. I did a lot of research and grilled my doctor during my second pregnancy. I ultimately decided to do another c-section to minimize risk to my baby. So… I’ve never experienced the birth experience I imagined, but I have two healthy kids. All is well. :) I look forward to meeting Baby D on your blog.

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Kiera August 6, 2011 at 1:39 pm

Firstly congratulations!!! A natural childbirth os such a wonderful gift to both your baby and yourself, there is nothing interfering with the wonderful hormonal rush and bonding of your baby.

Just one thing that stands out, ask more questions re your waters breaking, as the 24 hours is often negotiable provided you’re not showing signs of infection.

All the brat on your journey :-)

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Aynsley - WrenLife.com August 12, 2011 at 10:44 am

So happy to have stumbled upon this post. I’m 27 weeks, due in November and I’m training for a natural birth as well. I’ve read what you’ve read and tried to participate in some NCB forums online too so I can stay positive. It’s definitely NOT something that’s easy to share as most folks think we’re crazy!

Good luck and thank you for sharing!

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Jennie @ Jmacmommy August 12, 2011 at 11:44 am

Ok here it is! :) I really enjoy your blog and was hoping to see a post like this. Having just gone through this, I feel like I can offer you a positive perspective!

I wanted (and achieved) a happy and safe natural childbirth. Did it hurt like hell? Yes. Is it bearable and doable? Yes. Would I do it again? Yes, a hundred times. (Ok maybe more like 2-3 more times because I’m not a wealthy person!)

Here is my next question…who is a part of your birth team? I went with my Husband (no brainer) and my Doula, Gini. She was an amazing asset. Yes, I hurt my mom’s feelings by not including her. However, we were only allowed 1 other person in the hospital room with us (plus my spouse). My mom told me after that I made a wise choice. Since I labored at home for most of the time (with my mom and sister also there cheering me on), my mom was able to see how skillful and helpful my doula was. It was the most amazing experience and language really limits me from expressing just how magical “the moment” is…the moment you feel your baby enter the world from you. Magic!

So my story has many more twists and fun details…I actually am writing a post for early next week about it. (It took me nine+ weeks to feel like I had it remembered correctly! My mom, sister, husband, and doula all had to help me fit all the pieces together! It all happens quickly and slowly, overwhelmingly, and wonderfully! You will see what I mean SOON!) Congrats!

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Michelle {lively kitchen} August 17, 2011 at 9:42 am

I had both of my kids without an epidural and, if we are blessed with a third, would do it again. It’s such a life defining moment, the birth of your child, I wanted to be fully present.

Staying mobile is the key. I had to do some laboring in bed while they monitored the baby and those contractions were by far the worst.

You can do this!!

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Amy-Nutrition by Nature August 30, 2011 at 10:23 am

I have had three kids, I planned to have a natural epidural free labor with the first one, but for reasons that I did not control, (I tripped and fell down several stairs) I could not. I felt sad and very upset after the fact. Although, seeing my baby, holding him and knowing that he was okay and I was okay took away most of the bad feelings towards my delivery. My 2nd and 3rd pregnancy went so much better and were much more in line with what I wanted to accomplish!
This is your birth experience and whatever way you end up delivering your baby, you will be so happy and relieved once you hold your little one in your arms.
Best of luck and many blessings for you as you go into labor!

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Alison September 6, 2011 at 7:18 pm

I just wanted to say best of luck with your plan to have a natural childbirth. I’m hoping to do the same with my second child. I was induced with my first and while my epidural provided relief, it actually malfunctioned right before pushing, so I’m pretty sure I had a close to natural end of delivery. I wish I had taken the time to learn some techniques to help me through that situation… plus getting the epidural scared me more than anything else that happened that day!

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Kelly @ Free Spirit Food September 8, 2011 at 4:07 pm

I love this post. It seems women that take the natural route are judged more harshly than others. Why!!!????

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Claire September 14, 2011 at 3:02 am

Hi I’ve just found your blog and it’s great reading. Good luck with your impending arrival. I have 3 kids all delivered in hospital naturally with no pain relief other than support of a wonderful (although a little shell shocked) husband and hot water (first 2 were delivered in the shower, third in the bath). Hot water rocks. Although I was incredibly lucky three times, all I can say is it doesn’t matter how they get out, as long as everyone is healthy. I don’t understand why people are judged for what they wish and hope to do or what they actually do. All the very best of luck.

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Jess September 16, 2011 at 10:53 am

I’m late to comment and you probably already had your little one, but I wanted to say that I think, barring anything complications, most women who have set their mind to have a natural birth can totally do it! I did it when I had my daughter almost 11 weeks ago. I was totally in the moment and my daughter came out eye open alert and looking around. It was the most amazing moment of my life. I would do it again in a second.

I really hope you got the birth you hoped for!

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TheCrunchyGemini March 7, 2012 at 5:29 am

Oh I could go on & on about this topic!! My reasons were the same as yours. I read your birth story and although you didn’t get exactly the birth you wanted I’m glad it wasn’t too difficult for you and that baby was alert.

I was lucky and my labor started naturally and progressed quickly! 7 hours laboring at home + 2 hours in the car/at the hospital and she was here! It would have been even shorter except that they had no rooms ready when I first got there and thought I was a stupid new mom who didn’t know any better when I kept insisting that I felt the urge to push.. Well they finally checked and I WAS at 10… But still had to wait for a room.. Oh how I hated that part!!!! That for me was the worst and pushing also. I was so impatient by then that I pushed so hard and agressively that I tore pretty badly.

All in all it definately wasn’t so bad – painful yes – unbearable no. Although if it had been longer I may have felt differently!

It’s so amazing what the human body can do and I still look back fondly :)

I need to post my full birth story soon!

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