So I was thinking about yesterday’s post on budgeting for healthy food. Uh oh, another introspective post today? YUP. Reading over your comments really got my hamster running and I wondered why I was feeling guilty at first about the possibility of needing to go over our budget. Like I explained, food is so important to me. I’m pretty open about that, so why did I feel guilty about it?
If I was being honest with myself, I had to admit because I knew we COULD spend less if we needed, too. We could drop the wine, nix a steak dinner on Fridays, eat more bananas and less oranges, make more staples, eat more leftovers… basically, we could make some cuts to drop our budget.
And if we could, didn’t that mean that we should? Might others think we were being too extravagant?
Yes, they might, but I was falling into a trap I work so hard to stay out of…
What other people think of me is none of my business.
Why do we get so caught up in what others think of us and what we should do? We are grown adults and are capable of deciding what is best for ourselves and our families, but yet, so many of us fall victim to the should and put unnecessary pressure on ourselves.
I should be doing yoga/crossfit/running/resting.
I should be eating less meat/more meat/more dairy/no dairy.
I should pay someone to decorate my living room. (No? Just me?)
I should have a nicer purse/shoes/house/car.
I should have my career figured out by now.
I should be married by now.
We should have kids by now.
These questions are great to ponder and fun to discuss, but when you reach an answer that works for you, you shouldn’t have to apologize for it. Have you decided you never want kids? Or want 6 kids? Own it. If others don’t like it, that’s their problem, but no need to make it your problem by wondering if others deem your choices in life to be ’ok’ or not.
Basically, we need to stop should-ing all over ourselves and be confident in our decisions. This doesn’t mean we need to be rigid and defensive, but you know your life best and it’s ok to be confident in your station and decisions in life.
So, I’m going to do me (and stop apologizing for it) and you do you (and rock it!).
Is there anything you’ve felt like you SHOULD do or have lately?