Sometimes blogging is hard. I’m not talking about the picture editing or HTML confusion, but the idea of putting yourself out there and having people believe that what you put on your blog encompasses all of who you are or what you think. I’ve been thinking about Nice so much lately. And Orlando and Dallas and Baton Rouge and on and on and on. I just can’t fathom how these horrific events keep happening. I am sickened by the frequency. I do not understand the deep seeded hate. I’ve talked a lot with David about the world we are living in, raising our girls in, over the last few days.
Still, I don’t always bring these conversations or thoughts on the blog because, similar to how I treat my mind, I can not make this space a place that focuses on negativity and lets fear run rampant. I believe in what Ghandi said:
Or more simply put by Buddha,
“What we think, we become.”
I’m convinced that if we focus only on the sad and hopeless side of things, then that is what we will become. I know I can not control the entire world, but I can positively impact the people in mine by not allowing the fear to take over. I choose to be positive, encouraging, and hopeful.
In my mind and in this space, I will continue doing what I can to spread the love. I believe in conversation and understanding. I believe in respectful disagreements and discussion. I believe in lifting each other up instead of tearing each other down.
In our house, I start with gratitude, as I believe it is the cornerstone of happiness. Each night either at dinner or just before bed, we all go around and say the thing we most enjoyed about the day and what we are most grateful for. I’d like to say I do this just to foster gratitude in the kids, but the truth is, it’s good for David and me too. Saying goodbye to the day with thankfulness in our hearts makes for a better night’s sleep and a more energized beginning to a new day.
I sometimes worry that sharing these things will make me look like Pollyanna, but then I remind myself that
Being a cynic is easy. Optimism takes fortitude.
This weekend was a low key one for us. We truly didn’t leave the house. Not because of fear, but because we wanted to slow things down and give full focus to pizza, wine, and evening conversation.
To breaks in summer storms and for $10 slip and slides.
To finding surprise drawings from sweet girls.
We wanted to focus on all the good, because I’ve found if you can turn off the news and look around, you really will find so much more of it in your community than the media would have you think.
Today I encourage you to take part in sending out positive vibes into the world. Be the light; be the good. Do that random act of kindness you’ve been thinking about today. Raise kids that are compassionate and take action against wrongdoings. And maybe above all, speak kindly.
I realize this may be a bit heavy for a Monday, but I’d love nothing more than to hear what you are grateful for, an act of kindness you experienced, or something that is good in your world.
And as always, thank you for being a part of mine.