I like to think of myself as a happy person. I see the glass as half full, don’t mind admitting I’m a bit goofy and I get a kick out of smiling at strangers.
I came across an article the other day entitled 22 Things Happy People Do Differently. It really spoke to me. Some attributes I high-fived myself for being great at and others I scribbled down in my mental ‘to work on’ list.
I’m still thinking about the list, so I figured I’d share my top 10 favorite things happy people do differently…
1. Treat Everyone with Kindness. I inherently believe that people are good. Because of this thought, I strive to be open and friendly with everyone until they give me good reason not to. Plus, mom always said you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. If that isn’t a southern saying, I don’t know what is!
2. See Problems as Challenges. I must give David a lot of credit for helping me become better at this one. I used to fret more, but his engineering mind has helped train me to sit down, state the problem and brainstorm solutions. It’s so much more empowering then wallowing.
3. Express Gratitude for What They Already Have. Aaaaaamen! I love this one and probably even go overboard. At least once a day I mentally list off everything I can think of that I’m grateful for. If I get a bad case of the “oh-I-really-wants,” I immediately start a list of “oh-I’m-so-blessed-to-haves” – and I make sure the latter is longer.
4. Don’t Seek Approval from Others. I’ve finally reached the place where what others think of me is none of my business (an idea I stole from my dad). The best way to please nobody is to try and please everybody. So be you, do what you do, and do it to the best of your ability.
5. Get Absorbed in the Present. This one is one I really have to work towards. I tend to be very nostalgic and glorify the past. I also am a planner and like to map out our future. I know that life is what is happening here and now, so I am constantly striving to find a healthy balance of it all.
6. Avoid Social Comparison. Maybe I’m too busy focusing on how to better our lives to get caught up in others, but lately this has been easy for me. Sure I may admire others for their social grace, sense of style or running ability, but being happy in my own choices and abilities makes it easier for me to avoid the comparison trap.
7. Choose Friends Wisely. This is so important. I like to be around people that are positive, honest, encouraging, hard working, kind and supportive. These are values I admire and strive for myself, so when I see them reflected in another person, I’m drawn to them. Everyone has a limited amount of free time, soit’s important to be intentional when choosing who to spend your time with.
8. Eat Well. Real food just makes me feel better. And wine. Yes, and wine.
9. Live minimally. Gosh I long to be a minimalist. In some ways I am. In other ways, like my pack rat tendencies, I have a long way to go. I do notice how much more at peace I am when my house is clutter free. I don’t like a lot of trinkets taking up space without purpose. I’m continuing to learn how to simplify and be intentional with my purchases.
10. Establish Personal Control. This one might be my favorite. In the article it states Life isn’t fair. The sooner you embrace this fact and learn to work with what you have and to start where you are, the happier you will be.
What makes you happy?