One of the most important parts of parenting is teaching your kids the life skills and values they’ll carry into adulthood. And one of the biggest ones I’ve focused on with my girls? Patience.
You’ve probably heard the saying “patience is a virtue,” and let me tell you—it really is. Teaching your kids how to be patient, especially from a young age, gives them the opportunity to develop and refine this important skill. Patience goes beyond waiting quietly (though that’s definitely part of it!). It’s the foundation for building strong relationships, pursuing long-term goals, and navigating life with greater ease.
That’s why in today’s post, I’ll discuss the importance of teaching your children (of all ages) how to be patient. I’ll also share a few simple strategies for teaching patience that can make things feel all the easier. Trust me, it’s easier than you might think, and it makes a lasting difference when done with intention.
How to Teach Kids Patience
As adults, we face situations that test our patience almost daily. I’m talking about traffic jams, long lines, waiting for someone to text back (just me?). But have you ever thought about when you actually learned to be patient? Did someone take the time to teach you, or did you just figure it out along the way?
As parents, one of our many jobs is to intentionally teach these kinds of life skills to our kids. And here’s the thing—patience isn’t something kids are born with (though wouldn’t that be nice?). It’s a skill that needs to be practiced and nurtured over time. It can be increasingly harder in today’s fast pace world of instant gratification and 2 second video snippets.
That’s exactly why I’m talking about in this post. I’ll walk you through some easy, practical ways for learning patience that have worked for us and explain why it matters so much—not just now, but as they grow into confident, capable adults.
What Does Patience Mean for Kids?
Child patience is one of those things we wish our kids were just born with. However, the truth is, it’s something they have to learn over time (and with lots of practice). For little ones, patience means they develop the ability to wait calmly. They have to work through those everyday frustrations without melting down or giving up. Whether it’s waiting for their turn on the slide, learning how to tie their shoes, or putting in the effort to get better at something, it all takes time.
What they’re really learning, though, is how to manage their emotions. They start to recognize that feeling of frustration bubbling up… and instead of reacting right away, they learn to pause and respond with a little more thought. That’s huge.
And here’s the best part—patience teaches children to feel more confident when things get tough. They learn that hard work and waiting can actually be worth it. It also helps them get along better with others because they know how to take turns, listen, and show kindness.
Why Is Patience Important in Kids?
Builds Emotional Regulation
Patience teaches children how to handle frustration, disappointment, and waiting without falling apart (aka delayed gratification). When children learn how to pause and wait calmly, they’re really practicing self-control. And, ultimately, that’s a skill that will serve them for life.
Learning to take a deep breath, manage big emotions, and think before acting or speaking doesn’t just help at home or in school. It’s something that carries over into every part of life, from friendships and family relationships to the workplace someday.
Supports Better Decision-Making
When you teach your child patience, you’re also helping them become better decision-makers. Instead of reacting in the moment, they learn to pause, think things through, and make more thoughtful choices. Patience gives them the space to slow down and choose their next step wisely. This could range from sharing toys to working through an important disagreement, as this skill grows alongside your children.
Promotes Gratitude and Contentment
These days, it feels like everything works based on instant gratification. We all crave quick results and easy ways to get things done. And with smartphones and apps like TikTok constantly pulling at our kids’ attention? It’s no surprise that patience can be harder to come by. But when we teach our kids how to slow down and wait for the good stuff, they can start to appreciate things on a deeper level.
They begin to understand gratitude. They feel more content. And instead of always needing that quick hit of excitement and dopamine, they’re able to find joy in what they already have. That kind of mindset? It leads to more peace, less pressure, and a much healthier relationship with the world around them.
Want to focus more on gratitude? Check out my blog post, “How to Teach Kids to be Grateful.”
Strengthens Relationships
When children learn patience, they’re not just learning how to wait—they’re learning how to be better friends, siblings, and teammates. Patience helps them communicate with kindness, really listen when someone’s talking, and show empathy when a friend is upset.
These small but powerful skills make a big difference. They help kids build strong, lasting friendships and create more harmony at home, too. Because when everyone feels heard and understood, it’s easier to get along and work together.
How to Teach Patience to Kids
Play waiting games.
One of my favorite (and surprisingly effective) activities to teach patience to little ones? Waiting games! Simple classics like Simon Says or Red Light, Green Light might seem like just fun and games. But in retrospect, they actually help build patience, self-control, and those all-important listening skills.
Plus, these games are easy to play, don’t require additional prep, and sneak in valuable life lessons while they’re simply giggling and having fun.
Create small daily challenges.
Patience isn’t a one-and-done lesson—it’s something our kids need to practice regularly. One easy way to do this? Create small moments where they have to wait for something they want. When you incorporate this method daily, things start to stick.
If your little one asks for a snack, have them wait five minutes before they can eat it. For older kids, encourage them to save up their allowance for something special instead of buying right away. And for teens, activities like playing sports or learning an instrument are excellent for developing patience. Plus, they also get to work towards long-term goals in the process.
It’s all about finding those small teachable moments that add up over time.
Model calm waiting.
Our kids are always watching us, even when we don’t realize it. The way we act becomes their blueprint. This is called observational learning, and it’s one of the most powerful tools we have when it comes to teaching patience.
When your child sees you model patience by waiting in line at the grocery store or taking a deep breath before responding to a tough question, they’re picking up on that. They’re learning how to handle life’s little frustrations by watching how you do it.
And hey—if patience doesn’t come naturally to you (you’re not alone!), that’s okay. It’s a skill that you can work on with your kids. It’s never too late to grow in this area, and modeling it together can make an even bigger impact.
Talk through feelings.
When you notice your child getting frustrated or overwhelmed, it’s the perfect time to step in and talk things through. Help them put a name to what they’re feeling, whether it’s anger, impatience, or sadness. Then guide them toward simple coping tools like counting to ten, drawing, or taking a few deep breaths.
These little moments go a long way in showing them that patience isn’t just about waiting; it’s about learning how to handle big emotions healthily. And once they start practicing this, it’s a skill they’ll carry with them for life.
Set long-term projects.
One of my favorite ways to help kids practice patience (especially in today’s instant-gratification world) is to plan long-term projects. Try hobbies like baking from scratch, planting a garden, or learning an instrument.
When kids have to wait and work toward a goal, they learn that good things take time. They also learn that the reward feels even better when it’s earned. It’s such a simple way to teach patience, gratitude, and the value of effort all in one.
Connect patience to success.
Talk about patience openly with your kids, just like you would any other important value. Let them know how learning to wait and stick with things can lead to success. Explain how it’s essential when saving up for something special or mastering a new skill.
And if you’d rather not dive into a full-on conversation, that’s okay too. Sometimes a good book says it best. Try reading Waiting or Waiting Is Not Easy! together. They’re sweet, simple ways to help little ones understand what patience looks like in real life.
Patience is a virtue that your kids will thank you for teaching them early in their childhood. Even if you might not hear those words of gratitude until many years later 😉
As parents, we have a lot of responsibilities. We care for our kids, guide them, and maybe the toughest job of all, we teach them values and good habits that (hopefully) stick. It’s not always easy. But when we take the time to be intentional about building life skills—like patience—we’re giving them tools they’ll carry forever.
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Amber says
Love this post and I could respond with an entire blogpost-length comment on my thoughts haha 🙂 I think it is REALLY important to involve kids in activities like cooking, gardening, going to the grocery store, going to siblings practices/games, etc (all without screens) because they have to wait and see the fruits of their labor (or their siblings labor). I also think it helps them see that life is not always about them! I hope my kids always remember that patience means this moment may not about me, it is about someone I love, and that is a trait I hope they always choose to have. Love that you shared your thoughts on this!