What No One Told Me About Breastfeeding

by Brittany on October 20, 2011 · 70 comments

I did my best to label this post clearly, so that any squeamish readers would have the chance to x-out of here before things got too in depth…

I mean it. Fellas. Non-baby-loving ladies. Dad. ;)

Last chance…

OK, I warned you.

Side note: I included random pictures of Hailey because… well, no reason. She makes me smile ;)

I always knew I wanted to breastfeed, but have learned that things don’t always go according to plan.

Before Hailey got here, I read The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, listened to the experiences of other moms and decided to wing it with anything beyond that.

I knew the basics:

  • nurse the baby as soon as possible after birth
  • make sure a lactation consultant helps you and the baby have a proper latch from the start
  • it’s natural, but don’t expect it to be easy at first

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But there are some things that weren’t clearly outlined for me, so I wanted to share with you some of the truths I learned along the way…

1. OUCH.  Even with a proper latch, it takes a while for your nipples to toughen up. (I just said nipples on the blog… I warned you squeamish readers!).  And I’m not talking about a ‘oh that’s a bit uncomfortable’ feeling.  No, I’m talking ‘What the FUDGE?! Is that a rabid kitten trying to gnaw off my nipple?!’ kind of pain. For the most part, it only lasts about 15-20 seconds, then if you have a proper latch it fades away.  But those initial seconds are brutal.  I cried, I cringed, I might have bit Hubbs’ hand at one point…

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but the good news is…

2. It doesn’t always take 6 weeks.  I kept hearing to try and stick out breastfeeding for 6 weeks because after that, things get easier.  I remember thinking how long 6 weeks sounded, so imagine my delight when after only 2 weeks, I felt like we (Hailey and I) finally got into the swing of things.  Latching didn’t hurt anymore and my cracked, painful nipples were healing. Hooray!

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3. Lanolin.

Prepare to pamper your nipples.  When your newborn is eating often, your nipples barely get a break before they’re being gnawed at again.  Who knew a mouth with no teeth could wreak such havoc?  So, in between feedings, take the time to care for yourself.  Even though I was tired, after every feeding I’d let ‘the girls’ air dry, then smother them with Lanolin. My house was like living in a nudist colony for the first two weeks; I was always topless. It soothed and healed my poor cracked nipples and I’m pretty sure it contributed to helping them heal more quickly and made me get the hang of breastfeeding quicker than I expected.

4. Nail Clippers.

An infant’s little fingernails bend easily and are paper thin, but don’t let that fool you.  Those little things feel like razor blades.  I call Hailey’s nails ‘her little raptor claws’ because if I don’t keep them trimmed and filed, it feels like you’re being jabbed with a safety pin every time they brush across your chest.  That lucky little girl gets constant manicures!

5.  Breast Pads.

Buy them.  I was thrilled when my milk came in after only 36 hours, but I was not prepared for the sudden oversupply I had.  I don’t think my body was either.  My boobs couldn’t contain it all and they turned into milk fountains if Hailey didn’t eat every hour.  It’s the craziest thing to watch your body suddenly start squirting milk.  In hopes of saving at least some of my shirts, I bought the extra large box of breast pads and suggest you do the same… no matter how unsexy they may make you feel.

Once you get the hang out it, nursing your baby is pretty awesome.  Not only is it free (wahoo for budget friendly!), what they say is true- it’s a really sweet way to bond with your baby.  When Hubbs first fed Hailey a bottle, I was a little jealous.  Isn’t she supposed to need me for that? I guess I’m still the one supplying the food and having a bottle option is nice, but there is something so satisfying knowing that you are sustaining your baby through milk that you are producing and having the ability to calm her at anytime.  The body is pretty darn amazing.

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What is one thing you learned through experience about breastfeeding?

Or…

Will you ever read my blog again I said nipples this many times in one post?

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Jess October 21, 2011 at 2:16 pm

I learned it’s not quite as natural as its supposed to be. I mean obviously the act is natural, but you don’t naturally know how to do it correctly.

My first month was rough! My baby was so small, she could not get her mouth open wide enough. Ouch!

I’m so glad I stuck it out. Now she can latch herself and it’s special mommy-baby time when I’m home with her.

I also have to say, though they’re expensive, the Medela Pump in Style is worth every penny for working moms!

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Kristen @ The Concrete Runner October 22, 2011 at 11:52 am

Oh my gosh, she’s a cutie! I’m only 5 days in to breastfeeding but I feel like MacKenna + I have really gotten the hang of it. It was sooooo frustrating the first day or 2, but now I can tell when she’s latched properly + feeding fine. (My biggest problem is being able to tell if her diaper is wet! Of course, I didn’t realize that there’s an indicator strip on the diaper until this morning – duh!) I do feel like I am CONSTANTLY nursing her. I’m still not sure if my milk has come in yet, but I know my boobs are the biggest they’ve ever been (I’m normally an A-cup… pretty sure I’m close to a C right now). I definitely don’t have an overabundant supply yet since I have yet to leak, but I have pads on hand just in case! Thanks for sharing! I think we need to do a post on what they don’t tell you you’ll find in a dirty diaper.

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Erica October 23, 2011 at 1:49 pm

Thanks for this post! You’ve honestly made something I’m terrified of (breastfeeding) seem much less foreign through your humorous descriptions and unfiltered point of view.

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Elizabeth October 24, 2011 at 9:47 pm

Hi Brittany!
I read a bunch of your blog months ago, but haven’t checked it out since…and now I want to read all your posts :) … I love everything you write about! ..anyway, I just wanted to say I’m glad to hear that the bfeeding has gotten easier. It definitely took me about 5 or 6 weeks and a bout of thrush in the beginning to push through to smooth sailing. Just wanted to encourage you to do it as long as you can and wish to… it’s so good for the baby!
Congratulations on everything!
Elizabeth

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thehealthyapron October 26, 2011 at 9:02 am

thanks for sharing your experience! I worked with nursing moms for almost 3 years but you never truly know the difficulty until you try it yourself (which I haven’t yet). I’m intimidated to nurse after your description of the pain, but I know if I get through the initial few weeks, I’ll be okay! Thanks girlie!

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TheCrunchyGemini March 7, 2012 at 5:16 am

I was definitely not prepared for the leaking!! Omygosh it gets everywhere!!! That was the biggest shock for me as my milk came in like less than 24 hours after birth and freaked out the lactation consultant with how much I was producing… Lol!

We had problems with latch though and thank god for the lactation consultant because she introduced me to nipple shields which I still use 4 months in. So just a tip for any mamas out there struggling due to flat nipples! Lol

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Marci March 23, 2012 at 10:23 am

Just re-read this after 1.5 weeks of bf’ing. I agree so far and it is feeling more natural. Also using the same Lanolin and breast pads.

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